Quick Tips: 5 Ways To Work Around Your Laziness

Easy, breezy, beautiful and by easy and breezy, I mean lazy. Yes. Me! I am inherently lazy. It’s something that I have to consciously rebuke when it tries to take over. In my laziest phases, I can let things pile up so tall that they’re seemingly impossible to climb. So what I do? Act more stupidly Rest at the bottom of my self-constructed hill of procrastination and watch old episodes of “The Real Housewives Of Atlanta.”

If you’re anything like me, the mere desire to want to be successful isn’t quite enough to get and keep the ball rolling. Of course, there may be other factors contributing to your lethargy ( i.e depression). Yet even still, you may need some help working around it. Continue reading for some quick tips that may help you crack that lazy bone.

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The “I” in “We”: 4 Ways To Maintain Your Independence In A Relationship

There are too many reasons why people lose themselves in a relationship and most of the time they don’t even realize it’s happening. Soon enough, the honeymoon phase will end or somebody will smack some sense into you and you’ll realize that you’ve become completely dependent on your significant other (S.O.) and the relationship itself. You might also start to feel stuck and /or obligated to consider everything you do as a unit when certain things don’t call for that type of thinking. This type of dependency can cause you to not only lose yourself but the relationship as well. That is why it is key to maintain your independence. If you’ve lost your way look below to see how you can get it right back.

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4 Pregnancy Symptoms That You’ve Never Heard Of

Never in my life has the phrase “whew child” been more useful than it is when describing some of my pregnancy symptoms. From backaches to mood swings, pregnancy has the power to change your body in a gazillion ways and all at once. I didn’t by any means think that it would be a walk in the park (as if walking is even all that easy to do nowadays) but there are some things that the girls left out when talking to the audience about pregnancy.

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5 Tips To Help Soothe Your Anxiety

Already late to our destination, I took my time getting into the backseat of my mom’s car. I was about 11-years old and I was on my way to compete in a school spelling bee. I had on an outfit that I wasn’t too keen on (turquoise, khaki and glitter, ugh) and to top it off, I was feeling like complete shit. Nothing new at that time, my mood had been in a reoccurring state of somber for a while. My mother, obviously fed up and confused by it, turned around and with a terrifying look on her face screamed, “What is wrong with you?” I can’t remember what I may have done to instigate my mother’s outburst but I’m sure that typical preadolescent growing pains were a contribution. What I didn’t know was how much anxiety and depression played a part. At the time, I didn’t even know what those words meant. It took me about another 7 years, when things had intensified, to figure it out.

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If I Knew Then What I Know Now

When a situation occurs that reminds me of one that I’ve been in before, my mind usually goes straight to predicting how said situation will turn out. This is solely to further validate my belief that I was born with prophetic or psychic ability. Also, it grants me another possible chance to tell people that I, indeed, was born with prophetic or psychic ability. *winks*

The second thought that rams its way into my mind is how much of the wrong way I would’ve handled said situation just a few short years ago. It’s not that I’m immune to fucking things up every now and again but there are some mistakes that I’m just not making any more. At the very least, I KNOW not to make anymore. The reason why? Well for starters, I barely made it out “alive” the first or few damn times. For two, some things you only need to go through once. You know, just to get it out of your system. Now that they’re all out, I can share. Here’s a quick list of things that I’ve grown to learn from and would’ve done differently had I known what I know today.

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How Many Likes Did It Take For You To Forget Who You Were?

My older brother has always been the one to tell me what to expect as I got older. What sort of things I’d experience in relationships, friendships and in life in general were typically his main points of focus. My parents did too but the generational and cultural differences made it difficult to relate to some of their teachings. Now that I am older, their knowledge combined with what I have learned on my own has made a pretty-perfect combo and turned me into the “know it all” that I am today. While my major flaws lie in sometimes stating my opinions condescendingly, I never claim to know everything. However, there is one thing that I do know for sure or have noticed at the very least.

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Do You Really Have Trust Issues?

You don’t have trust issues!

…Or maybe you do. Who knows? But before you wallow in the belief that the way you trust or distrust is a real issue, let’s try dissecting what the term “trust issues” actually means and how it’s used.

Trust, or the lack there of, begins affecting most of us at an early age. I can remember the moment where trust no longer seemed like such an easy concept. I was around 6 years old and I had asked a friend to hold the money my mom had given me. We were on our summer camp trip and I had no pockets. Surely, I could trust her with my soggy 10$ bill.  We went our separate ways and when we met back on the bus at the end of the day, I learned that she had spent my money. Not some of it. All of it. She spent it on cotton candy, a Slurpee and a stuffed animal. I was as astonished as a 6-year-old could be.

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The Rise and Demise of City High…

Almost 18 years later, 2001’s second most requested song is still being played and still being chanted word for word whenever the opportunity grants itself. “What would you do if your son was at home, crying all alone on the bedroom floor cause he’s hungry! and the only way to feed him is to sleep with a man for a little bit of money? And his daddys gone…..”  With this type of influence, one would think that everything the unseasoned group hailing from Willingboro, NJ wanted was as easily attainable as they sang it to be in their following single “Brown eyes.”

“Cause everything I want I got it and everywhere I go I’m spotted..”

However, their story turned out a lot different than what most projected.

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The Stereotypes of Black Men and How They Affect Their Relationships with Black Women.

Healthy relationships are highly strived for but are simultaneously hard to come by. Find someone, build with them and then settle down. It sounds easy but the time intervals between each step and the plethora of factors that disrupt what seems to be such a simple equation has proven itself to be more difficult than assumed.

Amongst the pile of possibilities that make it difficult to obtain one of the most sought out things of our generation, of our life, there is one that has been vaguely explored and maybe not even thought of. What if there were cultural impositions that made building a romantic connection even more difficult based on the color of your skin and the culture you’ve derived from? Even made more difficult based on the stereotypes placed upon you built on those key factors.

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