The Rise and Demise of City High…

city-high-group-membersAlmost 18 years later, 2001’s second most requested song is still being played and still being chanted word for word whenever the opportunity grants itself. “What would you do if your son was at home, crying all alone on the bedroom floor cause he’s hungry! and the only way to feed him is to sleep with a man for a little bit of money? And his daddys gone…..”  With this type of influence, one would think that everything the unseasoned group hailing from Willingboro, NJ  wanted was as easily attainable as they sang it to be in their following single “Brown eyes.”

“Cause everything I want I got it and everywhere I go I’m spotted..”

However, their story turned out a lot different than what most projected.

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The Stereotypes of Black Men and How They Effect Their Relationships with Black Women.

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Healthy relationships are highly strived for but are simultaneously hard to come by. Find someone, build with them and then settle down. It sounds easy but the time intervals between each step and the plethora of factors that disrupt what seems to be such a simple equation has proven itself to be more difficult than assumed.

Amongst the pile of possibilities that make it difficult to obtain one of the most sought out things of our generation, of our life, there is one that has been vaguely explored and maybe not even thought of. What if there were cultural impositions that made building a romantic connection even more difficult based on the color of your skin and the culture you’ve derived from? Even made more difficult based on the stereotypes placed upon you built on those key factors.

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In The Words Of Fab: If Everybody’s A Boss Then Who’s Really Working?

There are not too many things that can justifiably yet, foolishly convince us that we ourselves or our peers are doing well other than a few hundred likes, a few thousand followers and a million pictures that show that you’re either having the time of your life or making big boss moves.

Positive affirmations and speaking thoughts into existence are apart of a routine that we should incorporate in our everyday lives. However, being able to separate reality from our own colorful imaginations serves as a more solid form of clarification on whether or not we are working towards a successful life and actually gaining in the process. It’s easy to project a reality that our goals are being met or that we’re really out here “eating.” Turkey burgers and hot chocolate. Really hoe? Continue reading…

I’m a Laaaady: 6 Life Lessons I Learned From Watching ‘Martin’

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To say that Martin wasn’t one of the greatest black shows of the 90’s is pure blasphemy. I try to be as unbiased as possible but we not gon’ act like this show doesn’t deserve a spot in the Sitcom Hall of Fame, if one were to ever exist.

But whether you have all 5 seasons on DVD or only watch it sporadically when there’s nothing else to watch, there are a lot of life lessons to learn from this outrageously hilarious show. Behind Shanehneh trying to square up with Gina and Pam every other episode, behind Bruh Man sneaking in Martin’s apartment to make sandwiches with moldy bread and behind Cole’s many failed attempts at containing any sort of common sense, there are some true epiphanies to be had from tuning in to a rerun or two. Am I reaching? I don’t know, maybe. Continue reading…

Pros and Cons of Dating a Rap Nxgga

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Let’s first start off by defining what a “rap nxgga” is, shall we?

Rap nxgga(RN) – a local nxgga….that raps.

Now let’s get into it. While the definition of a RN may not sound like the most honorable thing in the world, dating one can have its high points… as well as it’s lows.

So let’s take it step by step. Here are the pros and cons of dating a “rap nxgga.”
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The Corny Things I Did (Do) In My Romantic Relationships.

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You guys can bomb me up later. Just let me get through this.

It wasn’t until my freshman year of high school when having a boyfriend became somewhat of interest to me. Throughout those 4 years, I “experimented” but could never quite grasp the idea of a relationship. Once I got to college and was met with my first fake-real relationship things changed. I noticed how much of a sucker I could be when I really cared about someone.I can’t be the only one who dry heaves and cringes at the thought of the things they did or still do when they’re in love. So since the rest of you are a little hesitant to admit it, i’ll carry the torch for us all and be the first to expose my corny ways. Continue reading…